Just Asshole

Assholes do exist.

Ugh.

 Every human is asshole to the other in many different ways. Everyone is potential to be. Nobody is perfect, no human being is saint. Trust me, if you found a person whom is angelic for everyone, you better doubt that such person is a human.

But at this time, I'm not gonna talk about human as asshole. I'm gonna talk more specified, which is about kinds of asshole. And what are they?

1) Asshole by accident, and 2) Asshole by default

Admit it, they exist. Both are dangerous, but not in the same rate. And how can we differ them? Sure, I will define them one by one first, then my definition can be your measure to differ these assholes.

Asshole by accident

This kind of asshole is normal people like all of us. They only turn asshole when there are things that annoy them, piss them off, make them mad, or such. This kind of asshole is so human being, the difference is just they become more asshole than human in common. Annoying? Yep. Better to stay away from them? Yep, but only when they are mad. And when interacting with this kind of asshole, watch your action and words once you already found out the reason why they're assholes.

Asshole by default

This kind of asshole is also normal people but only from the outside. I have no idea why, but I think they were just born asshole. The difference with the previous kind of asshole is: this kind of asshole is annoying all the time, without reason. When they speak, they hurt the opponent. When they act, they piss the opponent off. None of their words nor actions are right. Even when we speak nicely to them, they will still hurt us. They will always find a way to kick our head, make us scream like 'what the fcuk???'. Too bad, this kind of asshole still has friends around, whom are not assholes because they are too good people who can tolerate this asshole, which on the other side, will make this asshole stays asshole. Annoying? VERY. Better to stay away from them? RECOMMENDED. If you had nothing to do with them, DO NOT ever communicate with them or you will end up killing yourself because of their attitude towards you.

Well, maybe I spread hate through this writing, but I just can't help myself not to write this. I am basically guiding myself in facing assholes, also to remind myself to stop being an asshole.  

We are human, we love, we hate, we care, we don't. To hate is nonsense and useless, but still, if you can't help it, don't hate basing on differences (of races, religion, social status, etc.) but hate basing on this rate of asshole. Don't hate someone because he's poor, hate him because he's asshole. Don't hate her because she is albino, hate her because she's asshole. Make this asshole thingy as your reason to hate, because to hate basing on differences is so Before Century.

And remember my last words: beware, I repeat, BEWARE of asshole by DEFAULT.

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Hate is Love

Do you ever hate anyone in your life?

No worries. It's human being. To hate, to love, to give damn, to give none, it's all about being a human. I never known anyone who never felt those feelings. Because if I did, I must have met an angel. Or God, maybe.

At the time being (aha, now I sound like my boss) I want to talk about the 'hate'.

We must have ever hated anyone. The reason is various. Maybe he/she annoys us. Maybe he/she has different opinion. Maybe he/she stabs us is the back. Maybe he/she stains our names. Maybe he/she is more beautiful. Maybe he/she is smarter. Maybe he/she is richer. Maybe he/she wins heart of people we expect to be our lovers. And there are still lots of maybe I haven't mentioned here. But we must have ever experienced hating someone. Maybe not openly, maybe silently. We can do it by many ways.

What do you think when you hate someone?

I ever once, twice, posted in December last year. It was about a wicked witch in a village. Yes, it was about an unwanted employee in my previous office. I hated him, so much. And because I hated him, everything he did looked wrong in my eyes. Including ordinary actions. Actions that, before I hated him, looked fine in my eyes. 

But then I realize. When I hated him, I was thinking of him. He was in my mind, as a person I hated. His particular actions were running in my mind. His annoying voice was echoing in my head. He was simply in my mind until we finally cut all our connections. Then, what was the difference between him and my friends? What was the difference between him and my family? Both of them are always in my mind, right?

Yes, the feeling is different. Still, all of them are in the same places: my heart and mind.

So, why can't we conclude that he was as important as my friends and family?

Because if he wasn't, he wouldn't be anywhere in my life. None of him would be in my heart and mind. I would give no damn about him, wouldn't even think he was alive.

My question is now: don't you think that 'hate' is a different way to 'love'?

I have reached such a conclusion. 'Hate' is a different way to love. You hate him? Yes, you love him. You hate her? Yes, you love her. Because do you know why parents yell to their kids when the kids make mistakes? Yes, because they love the kids, but they show it with a 'hate' action.

The difference is only one: to hate is tiring and giving bad impact to our heart and mind. Do you want to discuss about this? I don't. I think it's obvious. You may contact me personally to talk about it, if you want to.

Love your haters. Because like your family and friends, you have special places in their hearts.

p.s: I have made a reconciliation with the 'hated' ex-coworker. We're friends again like nothing ever happened :)

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Rival, Enemy, Friend

Human is a creature made with heart. by the heart, she/he can feel anything to anything and anyone. one feeling I notice here is hatred. we used to hate some people by some reasons. maybe they don't speak politely, maybe they're liars, maybe they whine too much, maybe they act real bad and hurt people we love, and still there are many reasons of hatred.

one reason I notice about this hatred is: because they do what we do, they love what we love, they can even do it better so that they conquer us.

yeah, we used to hate people because they have the same interest with us. and we'll hate them more when they take away something/someone we love, leave us alone with an unrequited feeling. we'll hate them more when they do things we do in some better ways. we'll hate them more when they feel what we feel in some more sincere ways.

in such condition, we might say that: "how come they get it? I am the one who deserves it more! they are not even qualified enough to have it!" but in the end we know we have to take things sincerely, and tell ourselves that 'something/someone' we love before might not be the best for us. might not be what we need, so that we didn't have it.

and then time goes by. things change. there comes a condition where our rival has lost that precious thing they had taken from us long ago. we might be surprised, or whatever, but eventually we will open the gate. we will throw away whatever distance between us and our rival. we will start talking to them, no matter how awkward it is. then we found out...we and our rival have lots of similarity. which had made us love and do the same thing in the old times.

we and our (ex) rival might spend some times together, talking, sharing about many things. maybe not about our competition in the past, but anything worth a lot more than that. even if it's about our competition, we'll just laugh about it, remind each other of how stupid we were, how silly things have been all the time.

the more we share, the more we might discover...that we and our rival are understanding each other so very well.

that is why, I think the statement on my favorite manga, Glass no Kamen, was right. it was said there that: my one and only rival is the one and only closest person to my heart.

really, I think it's truly true.

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