Just Asshole

Assholes do exist.

Ugh.

 Every human is asshole to the other in many different ways. Everyone is potential to be. Nobody is perfect, no human being is saint. Trust me, if you found a person whom is angelic for everyone, you better doubt that such person is a human.

But at this time, I'm not gonna talk about human as asshole. I'm gonna talk more specified, which is about kinds of asshole. And what are they?

1) Asshole by accident, and 2) Asshole by default

Admit it, they exist. Both are dangerous, but not in the same rate. And how can we differ them? Sure, I will define them one by one first, then my definition can be your measure to differ these assholes.

Asshole by accident

This kind of asshole is normal people like all of us. They only turn asshole when there are things that annoy them, piss them off, make them mad, or such. This kind of asshole is so human being, the difference is just they become more asshole than human in common. Annoying? Yep. Better to stay away from them? Yep, but only when they are mad. And when interacting with this kind of asshole, watch your action and words once you already found out the reason why they're assholes.

Asshole by default

This kind of asshole is also normal people but only from the outside. I have no idea why, but I think they were just born asshole. The difference with the previous kind of asshole is: this kind of asshole is annoying all the time, without reason. When they speak, they hurt the opponent. When they act, they piss the opponent off. None of their words nor actions are right. Even when we speak nicely to them, they will still hurt us. They will always find a way to kick our head, make us scream like 'what the fcuk???'. Too bad, this kind of asshole still has friends around, whom are not assholes because they are too good people who can tolerate this asshole, which on the other side, will make this asshole stays asshole. Annoying? VERY. Better to stay away from them? RECOMMENDED. If you had nothing to do with them, DO NOT ever communicate with them or you will end up killing yourself because of their attitude towards you.

Well, maybe I spread hate through this writing, but I just can't help myself not to write this. I am basically guiding myself in facing assholes, also to remind myself to stop being an asshole.  

We are human, we love, we hate, we care, we don't. To hate is nonsense and useless, but still, if you can't help it, don't hate basing on differences (of races, religion, social status, etc.) but hate basing on this rate of asshole. Don't hate someone because he's poor, hate him because he's asshole. Don't hate her because she is albino, hate her because she's asshole. Make this asshole thingy as your reason to hate, because to hate basing on differences is so Before Century.

And remember my last words: beware, I repeat, BEWARE of asshole by DEFAULT.

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Sahabat yang Menyakitkan

Sahabat menyampaikan kenyataan meski menyakitkan demi menyelamatkanmu

Setujukah?

Aku setuju.

 Memang butuh teknik penyampaian yang baik agar usaha penyelamatan itu dapat diterima dengan semestinya. Karena mana ada manusia yang senang menerima berita menyakitkan? Mana ada kabar menyakitkan yang bisa diterima manusia dengan hati lapang? Kalaupun ada, kabarnya pasti sudah basi atau yang menerimanya bukan manusia.

Tapi se-menyakitkan apapun, lebih baik mengetahui kenyataan daripada, seperti kata Rumor dalam lagunya Butiran Debu, terus-menerus tenggelam dalam lautan luka dalam. Setidaknya pasti itu yang terpikir oleh salah seorang sahabatku ketika ia menunjukkan padaku file beberapa foto yang kemudian menjadi titik balik penyelesaian masalah percintaanku dengan salah satu mantan pacarku.

Ceritanya kurang lebih seperti ini. Aku pada saat itu belum lama putus dan bertekad untuk move on secepatnya. Sayangnya tekadku itu seperti hanya sebatas kata, karena nyatanya aku tetap berkoar-koar tentang mantanku itu di Twitter, entah dalam bentuk nasihat, sindiran, caci-maki, dan lain-lain. Sampai suatu hari sahabatku ini, yang memang sebelumnya adalah rekan kerja mantanku, pergi berlibur dengan mantanku dan mendapati mantanku ini langsung dekat dengan salah satu peserta tour cewek yang baru dia kenal. Mereka berfoto dengan pose-pose mesra yang menurutku di luar batas wajar untuk lawan jenis yang baru saling mengenal. Aku berprinsip bahwa lawan jenis, selain keluarga, hanya akan berfoto mesra bila mereka adalah 1) sahabat yang sudah sangat dekat, atau 2) pasangan kekasih. Sahabatku itu juga menceritakan bahwa mantanku itu memang melakukan manuver-manuver untuk mendekati cewek itu. Kemudian dia menunjukkan foto-foto itu kepadaku, dan pada saat itu aku sepenuhnya sadar bahwa yang harus kulakukan memang hanya satu: move on.

Terlepas dari benar atau tidaknya cerita sahabatku, rekayasa atau bukan foto-foto yang ditunjukannya padaku, atau apa motif sebenarnya di balik dia menunjukkan foto-foto itu kepadaku, aku tidak peduli. Aku tidak bisa melihat motif buruknya, meskipun kabarnya (dan menurut ceritanya sendiri) dia memang memutuskan hubungan rekanan dengan mantanku dengan alasan ketidaknyamanan bekerja. Dan berdasarkan pengakuannya, dan juga menurut pendapatku, dia memang melakukannya UNTUK MEMBUATKU MOVE ON SEPENUHNYA. Hanya itu. Dia berpikir bahwa aku tidak seharusnya membelenggu diriku dalam masa lalu dengan mantanku itu, dan bahwa mantanku itu tidak layak diharapkan olehku karena aku layak untuk kesempatan baru yang lebih baik.

Dan itu cukup bagiku untuk memasukkan namanya dalam daftar sahabat.  

Aku tidak pernah tahu maupun bertanya apakah dia juga menganggapku sahabat, tapi sejauh ini hubungan pertemanan kita baik. Dan aku tidak peduli hal itu, karena bagiku sahabat bukan orang yang juga menganggapku sahabat. Sahabat bukan kekasih, perasaan itu tidak perlu dua arah. Cukup bagiku dengan tindakannya menarikku dari lautan luka dalam saat itu, dan dengan selalu berusaha ada untukku dan juga sebaliknya, mengandalkanku.

Lalu seberapa berani kamu menyampaikan kenyataan yang menyakitkan demi menyelamatkan temanmu?

Sejujurnya bila pertanyaan itu ditujukan kepadaku, aku akan menjawab aku belum cukup berani. Daripada membuatnya mengetahui kenyataan yang menyakitkan, aku lebih suka bergerilya di belakangnya untuk mencarikan jalan keluar lain sehingga akhir kisah temanku tidak akan terlalu menyakitkan. 

Maka bersyukurlah kamu bila memiliki teman yang mau memikirkanmu, meski harus dengan cara menyakitimu. Dan dengan menyakitimu itu dia tahu mungkin kamu akan membencinya, asalkan kamu keluar dari penderitaanmu. Sungguh, bersyukurlah.  

Berpikirlah.   

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2012, Bandung, and 2013

How was your new year celebration? Was it fun or plain?

Mine was, thank God, too fun to forget. But since I'm a forgetful person, I'll write it here so that I won't forget.  

I went for holiday with my boys, Asri, Asrul, Hafit, and Ryza, to Bandung. We planned to have some more people join, but too bad on the planned day some people already had another agenda, so that only five of us went. 

We were coworkers in Farida Law Office until last January 27th. Before we were off for holiday, four of us conveyed resignation letters jointly LOL not because we planned it jointly, but that was totally a coincidence. I was actually the one who planned to resign first due to better offer in another law firm, but then Ryza told me that he would too, followed with Asri, and I just found out that Asrul also resigned in the same day. Hafit was not included since his contract would still end in August. But imagine how shock our ex-boss was LOL.

And so we left Jakarta in Sunday morning by travel car. We found hard to find cheap hotel in new-year days, but thank God we coincidentally found a lodging house which had a quite big bedroom that we could rent for only around 500k IDR/3 days. What a saving! And these are the arrival photos I took with Asri before entering the house.

But since I was the only girl and the bed was not enough to have four people on, we asked for two additional beds. 

Afterwards we went lunch in a restaurant nearby. Sigh too bad I can't show much pictures because of the lost SD card -_-

We had delicious grilled chicken and soup there, and they also sold delicious bottled tea that I don't remember the brand. 

At night we went to CiWalk to have dinner and karaoke, this time Asri's friend joined us (um but I forget her name -_-)

Afterwards we were picked up by our friend Adit, whom was also our coworker. We were off to Bukit Bintang and took some photos.

Since the place was too down low, Adit failed to drive the car up with all of us in. So that we needed to get out of the car to push it up to the normal street LOL. We laughed and joked about that like 'we are lawyers who push the car up' xD

Afterwards we went to Gedung Sate and took some photos. Surprisingly such building was lightened with beautiful lamps around the roof.

Then we headed to Matari to have some...what is the name of 'eating between dinner and breakfast'? We had yummy Indomie with eggs and beef corned.

Next day on Monday, which was the New Year's eve, we went shopping like crazy. We visited nearly all factory outlets and distros, and thank God that some distros gave great discounts for their items, so that we shopped a lot. We had late lunch in Legoh, a small restaurant whose food are also delicious and I am impressed by their tofu cuisines. Afterwards we were picked up by Adit again in our lodging house and went to Paris van Java to have dinner. Since nearly all the restaurants were full, we ended up dining in Pepper Lunch.

 

It was my first time eating in Pepper Lunch. What a high cost food but I admit that the food is delicious. But surely I can't eat there each month -_- 

We ended up 2012 in Killiney Kopitiam. We sat beside the window so that we could watch the fireworks. They were beautiful and jaw-dropping, since there were some new kinds of fireworks that we never seen before. Going back from PVJ, we failed to find taxi and rent a public car instead, but too bad the driver rejected to drive us until the lodging house due to the traffic. So that we stopped by...I forgot, somewhere, and took a walk. 

Really?

Nooo, because in the middle of walking, the goddess of luck visited me, Asri, and Hafit, so that we could get a ride from another public car, while Asrul and Ryza had already walked too far from us LOL. We arrived at the house with dirty feet caused by the tarnished street after the rain then slept until the afternoon. LOL.

We packed our bags and went to the travel car site, ordering tickets to go home, and since the order had been full we got the 8PM trip o_O but we had no choice since we should go back to work by the next day. So we still took that schedule then went lunch in a cafe called S-28 nearby. The place was cozy, they have yummy nasi bakar that we fell for! And they offered me to make member card for free as well.

Then we shopped (again) in some distros in Jl. Riau as yesterday, and I'm glad that I found some beautiful clothes with logical price, my friends did find great clothes like cheap blazers as well. So we could go home with satisfaction since we know we could not obtain good clothes with low price in Jakarta.

We left Bandung in 8PM, and the traffic to Jakarta was totally hell. I could not sleep calmly since my mother kept texting me, asking me where my position was. Seriously, everyone in Jakarta seemed to move to Bandung in the new year -___- so I just arrived home in 2:30AM. I texted Hafit and he said everyone arrived in 3:00AM. What a long way home.

But then in year-beginning party, my ex-boss asked me how my new year holiday was. I told her that since I spent it with my best friends, it was fun, crazy, and unforgettable. We hope that we could spend the next year-end holiday abroad or at least in another island like Bali LOL hopefully we've earned enough money by the day. AMEN. LOL.

And that was my new year holiday. How's yours?

Happy belated new year 2013!

p.s: I'm currently going out with one of my boys above. Guess which one? ;) 

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