It's Not A Shame!

Do you have an annoying friend, who's whenever he/she talks to you, he/she always asks to be introduced to your male/female friends to be dated?

I have. And I found this condition annoying.

It just happened to me not so long ago, maybe an hour ago. A male friend talked to me in Yahoo Messenger and after 'licking my ass' by asking what I'm doing now, he started with that 'please introduce me to your female colleagues' and 'please introduce me to your other girls' shit.

I don't mean to spread hate nor negativity in this post, no. But it's been happening so many times and I hope to get rid of it. The problem is how do I tell him to stop? It will sound very negative like I'm not helpful, or worse, like I don't wanna be his friend no more. So I decide to never tell him that way.

The point is: why do we have to be so pushy about finding life-partner? what is wrong with staying single for a while? what's to be afraid with that? is it that scary if we don't date anyone, even for some months, some years? is it shameful?

If we think it's kinda shameful to be single, then we don't deserve anyone to be dated. Yeah. Because it means we don't date someone because we love that person. It's because we don't like being ashamed. It's because we don't want people point their fingers to us and say 'ha-ha, you're single, that's so pitiful!'

There's nothing wrong with being single. It's so much better than staying with wrong person, or worse, with someone you don't even love. I know love is about growing, but it doesn't mean we MUST give every chance to everyone. We have right to choose. We have right to say 'no' to people we don't want. And if there are dumb people saying we are too picky, then WHY? Nothing wrong with being picky. It's something very personal. It won't affect anyone else but the picky person him/herself. Besides, in choosing life-partner or person to date, we don't PICK EVERYONE, right?

So, stop being forceful. I don't see the fun in that. Why don't we live our live happily, doing things we love to do, having a passionate job, caring for people we love, and making ourselves happy? We can do them all while waiting for the right person to marry or to date. Just enjoy the time. Being single is somehow worth it. It's not a shame. It never is.

And you can't hurry love. You can never.

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Indonesia Can Make It

Have you ever noticed Indonesia by comparing it to other countries?

I have. And here is my analysis.

I am so very sad to see Indonesia's TV load. Look at those miserable dumb TV series and reality shows. And don't forget the talent contest that annoy us. Why can't people in TV make better programs? Don't they have better ideas?

I believe we, Indonesian people, are creative and talented. We still have great ideas in art, technology, and other majors. I believe we all can be great inventors and artists. But where are we, who have such hidden talents?

If they who have real talent are hired by TV to make good programs, I think it's no more impossible that TV Series in Indonesia are no more crappy like Cinta Fitri, Putri yang Tertukar, or worse, Supergirl. I believe we'll have great TV series like Hollywood's How I Met Your Mother or Parenthood, like Korea's Full House or Princess Hours, like Japan's Yamada Taro Monogatari, like else.

So why don't you, TV people, watch and learn from those foreign series?

I feel so pitiful to see Indonesian musician/singer/whatever it's called nowadays. They are so LACK of VOCAL quality. That's why they keep on doing lipsync when performing on live music programs. So pitiful, they can't sing, even compose lame songs, but they record albums. They RECORD albums, OMG.

Where are they, singers from talent contests who have awesome, amazing vocals? Why don't they record albums? They even deserve stage a lot more than trashy 'musicians' who can only do lipsync with their lame songs.

I believe Indonesian music will go international if we record albums only from qualified singers. They won't put us in shame if their songs are in chart outside Indonesia. They won't embarrass us when they perform live because they have amazing vocal and won't do lipsync. I do believe.

And, did you notice Japan's Sanrio or Hollywood's Disney? They have OMG ASDGFJSKA superb brilliantly amazing CUTE CUTE characters!!! And what do they do with that? They make the TV films, movies, and sell the cute cute merchandises. I keep envying them who have created such amazing things. So many characters with different shapes and names, and different stories.

Can't Indonesia make it? I believe we can. We have so many amazing illustrators and cartoonist. We have so many people who can create characters. We have a lot of creative people.

I don't make fun with this, seriously. When I went to design school, before I was accepted in law school, I was shown the seniors' works and I was like o_O. They created characters, cartoons, and the pictures were moving. I was o_O and :O when watching them moving and thought design wasn't my place because I won't let myself pushed to create such amazing moving pictures. I mean it's not my passion. But I will never forget that o_O experience, that made me believe how Indonesia have big assets: the talented people.

So why don't this country explore its people's talent? Why don't they search people with pure talent, not them with half talent? Why can't producers pay high for good creations, not trash? Why can't this country help paying these talented people's needs and on the contrary they will give their best creations to this country?

I don't understand why producers, or whatever it's called, want to pay so high for trash. For anything that's not artistic at all. But I somehow hope there are still some sane people who will realize, soon, that this condition is terrible. I hope they can turn everything bad into good. From trash into something precious. And if they need my support, I will try my best to give them. Ah but, right now, maybe not financially. LOL

Do you believe we can make it?

I believe.

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I Have A Dream

Do you have a dream?

I think everyone does. Even them whose dreams had been true. That's one way of how human survives, by dreaming. By not stopping to dream, everyday we find new things to do, to develop. We learn new things. Even the smallest and simplest thing that other people claim as 'not important.'

So, what's your dream?

Mine is being a lawyer, a wife, and a mother. I'm stepping stones to reach those, and everyday I learn new things. I get new challenges. I haven't been those at all, but since I'm on my way there, I don't feel enough to have only those dreams. So I try looking for new things and I naturally find them.

So this is it. I went on a date with a cute guy on September 20, 2010. I always wanted to treasure that moment no matter how, and I also found Taylor Swift's Today Was A Fairytale as the theme song for that day LOL...I know that's silly, and I don't even get him mine. But I just want to treasure that moment, put it in a box and keep it.

Then I was playing Tumblr. I tracked some doodles and I found cute doodles. I found them in perfect colors and shapes, too cute to miss. How I adore them who drew those little pictures. But I also found out that most of them use tablet to draw, that's why they can draw perfect lines without screwing on it. Some of them also use a painting tool on PC but I found it hard to use it especially the coloring. So, since I can't afford a tablet yet, and am unable to use that new-painting-tool, I try to go back to MS Paint.

Yes, MS Paint. I also drew some avatars for my social accounts using that old tool :D

I found some doodlers who post their pictures in Tumblr quoted song lyrics and drew them. I think it was brilliant, furthermore they drew cute pictures too. I ever asked them to quote 'today was a fairytale, I wore a dress, you wore a dark gray t-shirt' and draw it, but they said they didn't do requests :(

Well, since all the doors are closed, why don't I just open one door by my hands?

I can draw. I can use MS Paint. No tablet? No problem. Can't use paint tool? No problem. My pictures are screwed and not good? Practice! So I started doodling with pencil on papers first, put colors with markers, take pictures, and post them in social networks. I guess it kinda worked, some people loved it and gave compliment. But since I can't keep on taking pictures, I try doodling with MS Paint. Smaller pictures than my avatars, more difficult to do. I found it hard to draw straight lines, seriously, but I didn't stop.

You know, I somehow love drawing. Like writing poems and novels, drawing is like a part of me. I have been doing it since I was a kid, and it really is a great thing to do in leisure times. But don't get me wrong, drawing is NOT my passion. It's just a hobby. I don't draw to make money, I don't want it to be a job. That was why I went to law school instead of design school, because my passion is law (or litigation maybe, in short).

Back to topic, so I doodled 'today was a fairytale, I wore a dress, you wore a dark gray t-shirt' with pencil on paper. Feeling not satisfied, I tried doodling it in MS Paint, and this is it...



YAY I MADE IT! BY MYSELF! WOOHOO!

I know it wasn't a good doodle, it's screwed in so many places. But I am enough proud that I made it. My dream has been true! HA-HA! I know it's lame, but I really dreamed to draw 'today was a fairytale, I wore a dress you wore a dark gray t-shirt' with my own hands. And I have made it true. And I'm enough satisfied. I colored the clothes with the same colors that I and that cute guy wore in September 20, 2010. I could even draw the optical glasses for the guy, YAY! I'm awesome! LOL!

Here it is. Those doodlers in Tumblr are extraordinary. They created good things using complete tools and did their best, my hats are off for them. But don't make limited tools stand on your way. Don't stop dreaming, and don't stop trying hard to reach it. Even with limited tools, you must be able to do something, although it's smaller and simpler. But it's okay. And remember, practice always makes perfect.

I want to be extraordinary. And extraordinary people do their best even with limited tools. That's what I want to be :)

Don't stop dreaming!

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Funny Story

I was on our way to my grandpa's house when I had this chat with my sister. We were imagining such a funny story.

so, this is the story.

There was a female lawyer married a public employee, but she openly despises public employee because the job description doesn't make sense, yet the salary. Her husband is also a heavy smoker and she, again, openly despises it but always failed to stop him. One day, she sits together with her kids to teach them something.

Her: kids, what do you want to be when you grow up?
Kids: we don't know yet, Mom.
Her: just don't work like your father when you grow up, being a public employee stinks.
Kids: ...

Her husband accidentally overheard that dialog and faints. in hospital, the doctor asked the wife what happens to her husband.

Doctor: what happened the last time before he fainted?
Her: how did I know? he just suddenly appeared and fainted.
Doctor: did he hear something? because he seems to have a heart attack.
Kids: Mom, maybe Dad heard you telling us not to work like him?
Doctor: what the heck? Ma'm, how come you...
Her: come on, Doc, he smokes about six cigarettes in a day, and it can be more, heart attack doesn't really surprise me. don't dare blaming me, I can report you to police for defamation and unpleasant deeds, period.

Well, that was not the real story we talked about, I added some dialogs to make it more interesting. But seriously, I think it was just funny. Real fun.

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One Life, One Body

Last night, when I was in bed because of feeling unwell, I had a chat with a public-employee friend. Honestly not just a friend, because I have crush on him. Yep, I fell in love at the first sight with him and have told him, and got rejected. But we're still good friends this far, I don't know who needs who but we always buzzed each other in our free times. Who cares? Friends don't matter about that.

So, this is the conversation we had last night. Oh I must tell you first that this friend is smoking cigarettes but has a terrible asthma.

Me: so, are you still smoking?
Him: yep, I did it again
Me: DON'T! Please be more careful to your body!
Him: I want to quit, but it's not that easy
Me: it's easy, you just have to always warn yourself that it's dangerous
Him: ...
Me: or at least you minimize it
Him: uh-huh
Me: so, how much did you smoke today?
Him: I had six today
Me: what the heck? six? :o
Him: yeah...
Me: start from tomorrow, smoke only one!
Him: eh what? how do you set me like this?
Me: do you wanna be healthy or not? Sorry, I don't mean to be bossy, I just concern about your health
Him: well thank you, but I know what's best for me
Me: sorry I'm kinda bossy, but you're sick, don't make it worse

Then the conversation stopped. I still wrote, but he didn't answer. He went offline instead. I texted him, but he didn't reply. I twat to him, but he...is a newbie in Twitter so he don't know how to reply it yet :D

Well maybe he's still mad. Or not. I don't know. I don't blame myself if so.

The point that I want to talk is not about him and me. This is about how you treat yourself, how you care about your one and only body. I personally despise cigarettes, the smoke is terrible and I sometimes have to breathe it. But it don't mean I can't be friends with smokers, no. What I want to underline in this condition is: my friend is sick. He is sick, he has a terrible asthma and it could get worse at anytime. But he continues smoking while he ever told me he wants to quit long before last night.

Seriously, I have nothing to do with him. I fell in love with him, but it's not the reason I concern about somebody's health, especially a friend of mine. When you're in an unwell condition, you're sick, and you're definitely not allowed to consume things that makes your condition worse, I think there's nothing you can do but to obey it. Just stop being rebellious. Your life is only once. Your body is only one. Why should you break your own health just for something you know you can, and you want to, let go? Why do you continue consuming a dangerous stuff that exactly makes your health worse?

I mean, it's really not fun if the asthma is relapse when you're in an important meeting or presentation. It could be worse if you are the one who is responsible as a speaker. Gosh, seriously, can you imagine you had an important great seminar and you're the keynote speaker, but because of your breath is suddenly collapsed, that amazing speech of yours must be stopped? And you simply can't continue giving that adorable speech because you can't breathe? You will ruin the seminar and put a shame on yourself.

So, people, please be wise. Please be more careful about your health. Your body. Your own life. You only live once and have one body, why ruin it? Just live a healthy life, stay away from things that turn your health worse. Please be obedient. I know you can.

Because health is precious. Without it, how do you enjoy life?

p.s: and for that friend of mine, if you might read this, are you sure you know what's best for you? You better think twice and more, Dude.

oh and here's the song for this post, I got so much responses for posting this song on Tumblr

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